Coming Home

Finding the healing method that aligned with my forgiveness experience. (Forgiveness Series, Part 3)

The most profound experience of my life couldn’t be replicated by simply talking about it.

I had felt my body become weightless the moment God accomplished forgiveness for me. Instant. Complete. Transformative.

Naturally, I told my story to everyone who would listen. They believed it. They were moved by it. But they didn’t experience a similar transformation from hearing it.

And I became obsessed with a new question: How can I help others experience this?The answer took fifteen years to find.

If you missed the prior stories, about feeling weightless after forgiving (Part 1) and about the revelation of performance vs. surrender (Part 2), you can read them here:

The Forgiveness Factor

Like Plastic Fruit Pinned on a Tree

What I Knew Was Possible

After that profound experience of forgiveness accomplished FOR me—when I discovered I couldn’t truly forgive my grandpa through my own willpower, but God could—everything changed. Not just my understanding of forgiveness, but my entire relationship with God.

In the following days and weeks, I realized that I didn’t have to do ANYTHING in my own power—that I wasn’t even expected to. Further still, I understood that God WANTED to do all things FOR me, HIS strength and power and love demonstrated THROUGH me.

It brought to life the words, “I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.” It opened up a completely new way of relating to God, because it wasn’t based on me performing for approval and love or even to avoid punishment. It WAS about me surrendering heart, mind, body, soul, and spirit to God’s love lived through me and allowing the Holy Spirit to guide every aspect of my being.

This revelation was so powerful, so immediate, so transformative that my obsession made perfect sense: How can others experience this same kind of instant release, this profound proof of the kind of relationship—union, actually—that God wants with us?

The Search Begins

I explored several different healing modalities, kept experimenting with prayer techniques, looking for something more efficient, more effective, more elegant. Like the stories of Jesus, transforming people’s lives in moments.

I knew what was possible. I had experienced it. I did provide the occasional profound shift for some through hands-on healing combined with information received intuitively and released through what amounted to prayers. But I couldn’t figure out how to consistently facilitate it for others.

Finally, four years ago, I heard about ThetaHealing®, and when I learned about how the healing work was accomplished, I felt I had come home. The method aligned perfectly with my ideal of using prayer, as I did in my forgiveness experience, to fundamentally change the present reality for others. Simply asking God (or Creator of All That Is, or Divine Presence, or whatever you wish to name that Power of unconditional love) to make the changes as Creator deems appropriate for the highest and best good of the client and myself.

Transforming Beliefs Transforms Behaviors

Most of the time, our beliefs are operating subconsciously, driving choices and triggering responses in ways we don’t even recognize. We agonize, “Why do I keep doing this? Why can’t I change?”

Our underlying belief systems are a force we can’t control, can’t conquer, can’t escape, until they’re acknowledged, understood, and changed. Changing the roots of behavior and emotions, is ultimately the only place for real and complete healing to begin.

Efforts to simply change behaviors are like trying to change the fruit on a tree by painting it different colors. The current fruit may look a little different for a time, but the tree will keep producing fruit exactly as it always has, until belief systems are changed from the roots up.

Through ThetaHealing® techniques, we identify the underlying beliefs and then make the requests for changing them, effectively removing the bars of the prisons that were keeping us stuck in former patterns, the blueprints that constructed the lives we were living, confining us to cycles of suffering that convinced us we could not change.

The Four Signs of Unforgiveness

In addition to tools for efficiently changing belief systems, ThetaHealing® affirms the importance of forgiving and teaches a succinct framework for identifying the presence of unforgiveness. The signs that we’re holding unforgiveness are feelings of regret, revenge, resentment, and rejection.

When these feelings arise, we could stop and ask ourselves, “What is it? Why am I feeling this? Who or what have I not forgiven?”

Regret is non-forgiveness of self. It is how we punish ourselves, holding ourselves accountable for something in the past, believing we should have known better or done better.

Revenge doesn’t have to be as dramatic as wanting to harm someone. It can simply be wishing that somebody would get what they deserve, hoping karma catches up with them, taking subtle satisfaction in their struggles.

Resentment is the slow-burning anger we carry, the bitterness that colors how we see the world and our position in it.

Rejection—either rejection from another or the rejection we feel toward others or ourselves—signals that we’re still holding someone (possibly ourselves) at arm’s length, unable or unwilling to extend grace.

These four feelings are like warning lights on a dashboard, alerting us to the burdens of unforgiveness we’re carrying, often without even realizing it.

Just as I discovered that I couldn’t forgive in my own strength but God could do it for me, my clients also discover that the changes they’ve been straining to make through willpower can be accomplished in mere moments through surrender.

The Work I Now Do

Since finding the ThetaHealing® modality, I have listened to many stories of struggle, sin, and suffering. I am so grateful for effective and efficient tools to guide clients to surrendering those stories to Creator and learning that they, too, are forgivable and forgiven, lovable and beloved. That they can go forward in freedom and live well without the walls of the belief systems that kept them small and afraid.

Those that struggle can surrender. The imprisoned can be freed. The burden-bearers can lay down their loads.

They just need to know it is possible, it is safe, how it serves their highest good, and grant permission for the changes to be made for them!

If you’ve seen yourself in any of this narrative, please do reach out. I’d be honored to bring these possibilities to life for you, too!