When Home for the Holidays Makes You Sick.
What your body is trying to tell you about unresolved childhood wounds
The suitcases are packed. The pies are baked. .And somewhere deep in your body, something braces for impact.
Unresolved issues have a way of surfacing when we go “home for the holidays.” It’s supposed to be a season of celebration and togetherness, and often, it is. But it’s also triggering.
The old house holds old patterns. The familiar faces activate familiar pain. And your body remembers what your mind has tried to forget.
The Body Remembers
A young man with whom I’ve already had full-scale healing sessions texted me the Friday after Thanksgiving at 7PM: “Hi Kyle, I wanted to check with you and see if anything might stick out to you. We just got to my parents’ Tuesday afternoon and by Thursday night I felt a slight sore throat and by today I have a full blown nose cold.”
He was there with his wife and baby, visiting the home of his childhood, two states away from where he currently lives. Home for the holidays.
I was in Wisconsin. He was some 500 miles away. And yes, I can “check in” with him entirely on an energetic level. I “went up” into the presence of Creator, Divine Love, and asked what I needed to know for this young man, regarding his “cold” symptoms.
What the Body Was Saying
The words that came into my mind were 1) “unshed tears”, which is rather common for runny noses, actually, and could be considered as supplied by my own mind. And 2) “feeling grieved”, which is not in my regularly used vocabulary. Grieved, or aggrieved, is different than grief. More like the pained frustration of powerlessness, the ache of being unable to make a difference. And sore throats are known to represent the ache of words held back, “what can’t be said”.
I also asked Creator for when this feeling started for him: age five. I’ve learned enough about his growing up to know there was plenty of strife between his parents, and he especially didn’t like how his father treated his mother. Going home triggered the inner five-year-old’s frustration about being powerless to change the situations he’d observed, to protect the people he loved, to make the chaos stop.
His adult self was back in his childhood home. His five-year-old self was back in his childhood helplessness. His body sent the signals of the memories that were ready to be resolved
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The Remedy: Changing the Root
Here are the remedies that I asked Creator to change for him as Creator deemed appropriate for his highest good:
Change the unresolved memories associated with feeling grieved;
Change all original events (the origins of this experience, whether personal, ancestral, or other soul-level experiences) leading up to feeling grieved
Change all associated forgivenesses (statements of forgiveness of self, body [for the unshed tears and suppressed words], God/Creator, Mom, Dad, parents (as a unit), and anyone else involved in ANY of the original events)
Change the belief: On any level, it’s my responsibility.
Forgive and Release/Dissolve all attachments and cords to Mom, Dad, parents (as a unit), the family as a whole
The instructions were simple: Read the list out loud—or at least whisper it, mouth the words. Then say “YES” out loud to grant permission for the requested changes to be activated.
There is something about moving the lips that slows the brain enough to really make the necessary connections, to allow the proposed changes to root, to give conscious permission.
I sent the requested changes and instructions in a text at 9:30 Friday night.
The Shift
The next evening, Saturday at 5 PM, I received another text: “Thank you! I read over it last night and accepted it. This morning I woke up feeling better and my nose has been clearing up throughout the day today!”
Timeline:
Thurs evening - “slight sore throat”.
Friday evening - “full blown nose cold”, texted at 7P. I responded with instructions at 9:30P
Saturday - “woke up feeling better” and nose “clearing up throughout the day”
What’s the trajectory of a usual cold, from first tickle of a sore throat to cessation of symptoms? Online, it says that typical cold symptoms are usually at their worst within 2-3 days, and lasting 7-10 days. This “cold” started on Thurs and was better by Saturday.
This young man listened to what his body was saying. The memories, attendant beliefs, and unhealthy identities were changed. And by morning, his nose was clearing. Not because the cold “ran its course.” Because the grief did.
Yes, this is anecdotal and only one story. However, I’ve seen similar situations resolved as quickly many times.
What This Tells Us
Your body is not betraying you when it gets sick during stressful visits. It’s not “just” your immune system fighting the germs introduced in a different group. It’s not “just” stress suppressing your immune system. Your body is speaking to you—telling the truth of suppressed memories, crying the tears you wouldn’t shed, carrying the burden you couldn’t previously acknowledge.
The runny nose wasn’t random. The sore throat wasn’t just a virus. The cold was a five-year-old’s unshed tears, finally finding their way out wjen the five-year-old felt safe enough.
This is the work: listening to what the body is saying, identifying the beliefs that are operating, changing the root instead of just treating the symptom.
You can take all the vitamin C in the world, but if the five-year-old inside you still believes it’s his responsibility to fix what’s broken in his family, your body will keep collapsing under that impossible weight.
The holidays will keep triggering you until the unresolved is resolved. The visits will keep making you sick until the unshed tears are shed—or the reasons for them are released. The body will keep speaking until someone finally listens.
If you find yourself getting sick every time you go home, ask:
What is my body trying to tell me? What beliefs am I still carrying from childhood? What burden have I been holding that was never mine to carry? And then—if you’re ready—give yourself permission to surrender it and let it all be changed for you.
If you’re feeling unable to get the answers or effect the changes yourself, I’d be honored to walk with you, creating healthy patterns from the roots up!
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